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April 18, 2012

the pursuit of perfect-ness

by z.lynn

“We come to know love, not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” ~ Sam Keen

Life can be complicated…love, even more so. complicated, most often when we make it that way. searching for ‘the one’ and either not finding him or thinking that he is ‘the one’ only to find out later that he is NOT perfect – can be frustrating. Endless pursuits towards fame and fortune often leave many feeling unfulfilled or despondent. Even life’s day-to-day hustle can wear us out. Why is that?

For me and i think a lot of people, it’s the constant ‘pursuit of perfect-ness’. Although I don’t set out to ‘be perfect’, I find myself disappointed if I don’t get ‘this’ or i don’t get ‘there’ or if I don’t do ‘this’ – ‘that way’ – RIGHT NOW. these are self-imposed, unwritten, unnecessary requirements that I’m placing on myself. because ‘THAT’ is probably something that is not in my budget [right now, anyways ;-)] or something that I can find a way to do without until I can get it or something that i really don’t need; ‘THERE’ is a place where someone ELSE is and im still on my way to and ‘THAT WAY’ is the way that someone ELSE does it.

I want to do it MY way and enjoy the peaks and valleys along the way. not to say that i don’t already do it my way and not to say that there aren’t goals that we should set for ourselves or guidelines that we should follow or that there aren’t people that we can emulate, who are where we want to be or do what we want to do and we can learn from their experience… (inhaling deeply, pausing…)

I’m just saying that I don’t want to beat myself up because I don’t blog as often as I would like … or because I let my emotions get the best of me (a lot) … or because, without MUCH manipulation, my hair doesn’t curl like hers … or because my pictures don’t turn out like my fav super-mega-star photographer … or because i cant always remember the scripture to use to enunciate the faith overflowing in my heart…or because I don’t exercise regularly… yada, yada, yada…

(Note to self: – in my Madea voice – ‘hellur… you’re not perfect…’)

there will always be someone to compare myself to or some mountainous goal to conquer…our heavenly father only expects the best that i can do. so i will do my best. and if my best isn’t where someone else is or achieves what someone else has or whatever, then SO BE IT!

as with anything, practice makes perfect. and if I regularly do the work to get to where I need to be then I will get there.

so, I must take each mountain one step at a time and stop trying to be perfect.

perfection? TBD

the best ME that I can be? I’m right here, right now!

now, let’s get to work!

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November 16, 2011

Just Do It

by z.lynn

Nike catapulted this iconic phrase into the stratosphere over 23 years ago with the help of their ad agency, Wieden & Kennedy. It’s a simple phrase but can be applied to almost anything that we endeavor to do. It reminded me of a post from top photographer, Jasmine Star, on her struggles with the completion of her magazine, EXPOSED (still SUPER excited about getting muse copy in the mail!!!). She waned and doubted a bit in the process and even stopped working on it for awhile but ultimately got back up and finished it. She just DID it.

Thinking about my own life this morning and not wanting to get out of bed, not wanting to make the phone calls, not wanting to cook dinner and wash clothes and clean the house yet again after grown enough people that can do it themselves. The-book, Tell Your Time by Amy Andrews, Helped me to see that these are my roles, either thrust upon me or accepted by choice. Which is so true. Another role that will be quickly added is that of Delegator, mommy needs some help! LOL

Midways through my second cup of coffee this morning, I reminded myself that no matter what happens, my success or failure is a direct result of the effort that I exert. Be it a little or be it a lot of effort. I’ve been pretty lax in the effort department, which is the easy way out. Managing your household or owning hyour own business is just that, YOURS. You (read betw the lines- “I”) get out of it what you (I) put into it and the lack of activity, in essence, can signal that you (I) do not want to succeed…for whatever reason. As the old saying goes, ‘fail to plan and you plan to fail’.

But this all starts with a choice. Choose to get up, choose to plan, choose to write, choose to stand, choose to succeed, choose to dream, choose to live.

Just do it!

Have a fabulous day!
Z
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October 5, 2011

this is your life…do what you love!

by z.lynn

 

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