“We come to know love, not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” ~ Sam Keen
Life can be complicated…love, even more so. complicated, most often when we make it that way. searching for ‘the one’ and either not finding him or thinking that he is ‘the one’ only to find out later that he is NOT perfect – can be frustrating. Endless pursuits towards fame and fortune often leave many feeling unfulfilled or despondent. Even life’s day-to-day hustle can wear us out. Why is that?
For me and i think a lot of people, it’s the constant ‘pursuit of perfect-ness’. Although I don’t set out to ‘be perfect’, I find myself disappointed if I don’t get ‘this’ or i don’t get ‘there’ or if I don’t do ‘this’ – ‘that way’ – RIGHT NOW. these are self-imposed, unwritten, unnecessary requirements that I’m placing on myself. because ‘THAT’ is probably something that is not in my budget [right now, anyways ] or something that I can find a way to do without until I can get it or something that i really don’t need; ‘THERE’ is a place where someone ELSE is and im still on my way to and ‘THAT WAY’ is the way that someone ELSE does it.
I want to do it MY way and enjoy the peaks and valleys along the way. not to say that i don’t already do it my way and not to say that there aren’t goals that we should set for ourselves or guidelines that we should follow or that there aren’t people that we can emulate, who are where we want to be or do what we want to do and we can learn from their experience… (inhaling deeply, pausing…)
I’m just saying that I don’t want to beat myself up because I don’t blog as often as I would like … or because I let my emotions get the best of me (a lot) … or because, without MUCH manipulation, my hair doesn’t curl like hers … or because my pictures don’t turn out like my fav super-mega-star photographer … or because i cant always remember the scripture to use to enunciate the faith overflowing in my heart…or because I don’t exercise regularly… yada, yada, yada…
(Note to self: – in my Madea voice – ‘hellur… you’re not perfect…’)
there will always be someone to compare myself to or some mountainous goal to conquer…our heavenly father only expects the best that i can do. so i will do my best. and if my best isn’t where someone else is or achieves what someone else has or whatever, then SO BE IT!
as with anything, practice makes perfect. and if I regularly do the work to get to where I need to be then I will get there.
so, I must take each mountain one step at a time and stop trying to be perfect.
the best ME that I can be? I’m right here, right now!
now, let’s get to work!