April 18, 2012

the pursuit of perfect-ness

by z.lynn

“We come to know love, not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” ~ Sam Keen

Life can be complicated…love, even more so. complicated, most often when we make it that way. searching for ‘the one’ and either not finding him or thinking that he is ‘the one’ only to find out later that he is NOT perfect – can be frustrating. Endless pursuits towards fame and fortune often leave many feeling unfulfilled or despondent. Even life’s day-to-day hustle can wear us out. Why is that?

For me and i think a lot of people, it’s the constant ‘pursuit of perfect-ness’. Although I don’t set out to ‘be perfect’, I find myself disappointed if I don’t get ‘this’ or i don’t get ‘there’ or if I don’t do ‘this’ – ‘that way’ – RIGHT NOW. these are self-imposed, unwritten, unnecessary requirements that I’m placing on myself. because ‘THAT’ is probably something that is not in my budget [right now, anyways ;-)] or something that I can find a way to do without until I can get it or something that i really don’t need; ‘THERE’ is a place where someone ELSE is and im still on my way to and ‘THAT WAY’ is the way that someone ELSE does it.

I want to do it MY way and enjoy the peaks and valleys along the way. not to say that i don’t already do it my way and not to say that there aren’t goals that we should set for ourselves or guidelines that we should follow or that there aren’t people that we can emulate, who are where we want to be or do what we want to do and we can learn from their experience… (inhaling deeply, pausing…)

I’m just saying that I don’t want to beat myself up because I don’t blog as often as I would like … or because I let my emotions get the best of me (a lot) … or because, without MUCH manipulation, my hair doesn’t curl like hers … or because my pictures don’t turn out like my fav super-mega-star photographer … or because i cant always remember the scripture to use to enunciate the faith overflowing in my heart…or because I don’t exercise regularly… yada, yada, yada…

(Note to self: – in my Madea voice – ‘hellur… you’re not perfect…’)

there will always be someone to compare myself to or some mountainous goal to conquer…our heavenly father only expects the best that i can do. so i will do my best. and if my best isn’t where someone else is or achieves what someone else has or whatever, then SO BE IT!

as with anything, practice makes perfect. and if I regularly do the work to get to where I need to be then I will get there.

so, I must take each mountain one step at a time and stop trying to be perfect.

perfection? TBD

the best ME that I can be? I’m right here, right now!

now, let’s get to work!

;-)

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December 4, 2011

Dare To Be Different Fashion Show

by z.lynn

Planning a major event takes time, dedication, effort and extra helpings of all three! Nothing ever goes without a hitch. Tonight’s fashion show was not exempt from that adage.

Up against a seemingly insurmountable task , ADHC Designs pulled off a great show! Hats off to the ladies and gentlemen who worked tirelessly to make this event happen.

 

;-)

z

November 22, 2011

#16 – All Things Bridal – The Finer Details

by z.lynn

A wonderful bridal gown trend that continues to enamour me is the use of various textures!

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE them!!!

Whether it’s ruching, flowers, bows [within reason ;-)], poufs, pickups, lace – I love them all! My own gown, that I wore 2 years ago last month, was the wildly popular Rhianna Royale by Maggie Sottero!!

I’m still so in love with it that I can’t see myself parting with it – ever!!

Whatever you decide, have fun with textures. This trend won’t be going away for awhile…

Until next time…

Z

;-)

Muah!

November 17, 2011

EXPOSED – It’s HERE!!!!

by z.lynn

Stay tuned for details…

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November 16, 2011

#15 – All Things Bridal – Thematically Correct

by z.lynn

Setting a theme can add a level of elegance and a certain, umm, ‘je ne sais quoi’ to your wedding day or engagement photo session. Be different, and thematically correct with a theme. It can highlight things or activities that you enjoy as a couple, your fav book or poem or even your fav movie.

Check out this couple, these shots are just as beautiful and steamy as the movie they are based off of, The Notebook. I LOVE THIS MOVIE!
The Notebook Engagement Story

Have fun!
Z
;-)

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November 16, 2011

Just Do It

by z.lynn

Nike catapulted this iconic phrase into the stratosphere over 23 years ago with the help of their ad agency, Wieden & Kennedy. It’s a simple phrase but can be applied to almost anything that we endeavor to do. It reminded me of a post from top photographer, Jasmine Star, on her struggles with the completion of her magazine, EXPOSED (still SUPER excited about getting muse copy in the mail!!!). She waned and doubted a bit in the process and even stopped working on it for awhile but ultimately got back up and finished it. She just DID it.

Thinking about my own life this morning and not wanting to get out of bed, not wanting to make the phone calls, not wanting to cook dinner and wash clothes and clean the house yet again after grown enough people that can do it themselves. The-book, Tell Your Time by Amy Andrews, Helped me to see that these are my roles, either thrust upon me or accepted by choice. Which is so true. Another role that will be quickly added is that of Delegator, mommy needs some help! LOL

Midways through my second cup of coffee this morning, I reminded myself that no matter what happens, my success or failure is a direct result of the effort that I exert. Be it a little or be it a lot of effort. I’ve been pretty lax in the effort department, which is the easy way out. Managing your household or owning hyour own business is just that, YOURS. You (read betw the lines- “I”) get out of it what you (I) put into it and the lack of activity, in essence, can signal that you (I) do not want to succeed…for whatever reason. As the old saying goes, ‘fail to plan and you plan to fail’.

But this all starts with a choice. Choose to get up, choose to plan, choose to write, choose to stand, choose to succeed, choose to dream, choose to live.

Just do it!

Have a fabulous day!
Z
;-)

November 8, 2011

EXPOSED by Jasmine Star

by z.lynn

EXTRA, EXTRA, read all about it…

EXPOSED – The Biggest Mistakes, Loneliest Heartbreaks & the Small Victories Along the Way

Jasmine Star has just released her limited edition magazine entitled EXPOSED - a behind the scenes look at the personal triumphs and setbacks that have catapulted her to international fame as a top wedding photographer. This is an anthology of the experiences of Jasmine Star, the person, not the business. As a fan of her work and style, I can’t wait for my copy to arrive in the mail and I promise to share with you all the juicy details! Since she is a ‘friend in my head‘, I know she wrote this JUST for me!! Thanks, girl!

I’ve always admired her tenacity and positive attitude, come what may, and strive to adopt the same philosophy in my own life. In the face of outright criticism and betrayal from people close to her, she has gone on to become a successful photographer. Check out CreativeLive’s interview with her for a sneak peak of the new magazine.

For those interested in purchasing the magazine, click here.

Congratulations, Jasmine!

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Image by nicolernorman via Flickr

Muah,

Z

;-)

November 7, 2011

#14 – All Things Bridal – Make your ‘maids merry

by z.lynn

while the MOH bears most of the responsibility in your wedding, the BM’s are not without accountability – at least not financially.

although it is your day, consider those that you choose to be a part of your wedding party. they must be willing and able to comply with most, if not all, of the time commitments your wedding will entail – dress/shoe shopping and sizing, helping you assemble and mail programs/favors, rehearsals not to mention setting aside an entire day for the ceremony and reception.

most importantly, they must financially bear the cost of being a BM. this timely article from ellybevents helps to shed some light on the true costs to being a BM:

http://ellybevents.com/blog/2011/10/true-cost-of-being-a-bridesmaid/

help them to count the cost!

 

happy planning!

Z

;-)

November 2, 2011

love…never fails??

by z.lynn

in the wake of the Kris Humphries / Kim Kardashian divorce, it saddens me to hear that they are splitting after such a short period of time. marriage is intended to be a permanent bond between to people who vow to love, honor and respect each other. true love CAN stand the test of time, through the ups and downs of life, as evidenced by this beautiful couple who died in each others’ arms after 72 years of marriage. so beautiful:

http://www.kcci.com/r/29528191/detail.html

the Bible tells us that “love never fails” (1 Cor 13:8). so if the former is true, what went wrong? the ‘what went wrong’ is us. we are imperfect people and will not always do or say the right thing. as with anything, however, you get out of it whatever you put into it.

love inspires me and most other people on this planet to do whatever it is that we do in life. along that road of life, we all will come across some speed bumps and potholes and even construction delays. love is wonderful, beautiful, amazing, heartwarming, and every other word that you can use to describe it. but it does require work.

REMEMBER – the way we navigate today’s bumps determines how we will fare when tomorrows’ bumps arrive. it requires ‘stick-to-itiveness’ (didyaknow, that’s actually in the dictionary!)

will you fall down and walk away/give up or get up and try it again?

have an AMAZING day!

muah,

z

;-)

October 17, 2011

wishes and dreams

by z.lynn

Fauja Singh in 2007

as i’m culling through and editing my photos from a portrait shoot this weekend and wondering what in the name of pixels i’m doing – warm to cool, cool back to warm, lighter, no darker, no more contrast, less hue – the proverbial light bulb turned on and enlightened me to the fact that I don’t know what i want because i don’t know what i like and i don’t know what i like because i haven’t done it enough to figure out what i like.

i’ve had my website guy on hold for months because i don’t know what to tell him to do. yes, i know i want to do weddings, engagements, families, babies, etc. i am in love with love and all things lovely. but, what do i want my brand to say, what do i want people to come away with when they look at my work. definitely not my indecision, not my procrastination, not my disorganization. i want this so bad i can taste it, but i have to make it work. (thanks, Tim Gunn) on top of everything else that i am commissioned with, i have to find a way to put in the time to do the work to get the experience to build the business that i desire.

a 100 year old marathoner successfully completed the full-distance Toronto Race on Sunday. As the very last competitor, Fauja Singh finished the race in just over 8.5 hours. can you imagine running for 8 full hours?? can you imagine running for 8 full hours @ the age of 100??? i can’t run for 8 minutes and i’m a third of his age! he began running at age 89 and has run in several marathons since then.

his story made me teary – tearfully happy. Fauja said that it was his lifelong wish to do this. i am in awe of his determination, his endurance, his commitment, his passion. his story is just a reminder to all of us that if we believe, we can achieve. wishes and dreams are never too far off from us. it is my dream to make a career out of something that i love to do. that is my plan and i’m sticking to it. time to move forward.

dream on…

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